How and Why to Ask for Help from Your Ancestors

My great, great, great, grandma Isabella James

Can You Spot Any Resemblance? No, me neither, but definately with other members of my family line on my grandad's side of family.

Have you ever paused to consider who you belong to—and who belongs to you?

Here are some questions to ponder:

• Do you belong to your family and friends?

• Do your family and friends belong to you?

• If you have children, do they belong to you—as you belong to them? Is there a sense of ‘ownership’?

• Do you belong to your parents?

• Do your parents belong to you? (And does that shift depending on your relationship with them!)

  
  

It might feel strange to think about not belonging to your parents, doesn’t it? Of course, you do—on many levels. But I also see it as an opportunity to broaden my perception and deepen my compassion by recognisng that we are part of something much greater—the vast mystery of creation itself.

We are all connected through the threads of the past, carrying ancestral patterns, stories, and energy. At the same time, we are also woven into the future, influencing and inspiring those yet to come.

I once worked on a family tree on my mother’s side. It was a fascinating journey—challenging to piece together, but rewarding to learn about my ancestors’ lives. I could even see resemblances from five generations back. Yet, despite all I uncovered, there remains so much about them I will never know. Their stories are like sentences within their own book of This Is Your Life.

What’s more, we still carry the imprint of family and ancestral patterns—karma, habits, strengths, and challenges. This isn’t about blame or guilt, but understanding that these influences shape us through our DNA—manifesting physically, mentally, and emotionally.

It makes sense to believe that the spirits and energies of our ancestors continue to exist beyond death. They can offer guidance, wisdom, and support in this life, especially when we honor their knowledge of creation, birth, and transformation.

Expressing gratitude and appreciation for your ancestors is a beautiful, humbling practice. They gave you the life you have now, and in turn, your gratitude helps honor their legacy. It’s a meaningful way to reinforce your sense of belonging and identity—even if the details of your ancestral lineage are unknown.

How Can You Connect with Your Ancestors?

If you’re facing a challenge, seeking insight, or simply wish to deepen your connection, here’s a gentle practice you might try. Remember, this doesn’t have to be elaborate—keep it simple and authentic.

Steps to Connect:

Find a quiet time and space.

• Cleanse your environment—perhaps with sage or by offering flowers—helping to set your intention.

• Gather meaningful objects—photos, heirlooms, or items that remind you of your ancestors if they're available.

• Have pen and paper ready.

• Optional: Light essential oils such as frankincense, rosemary, lavender, or patchouli.

• Optional: Place crystals like rose quartz, amethyst, or selenite nearby.

• Play calming music or enjoy the sounds of nature if outdoors.

• Then, simply invite your ancestors into your space:

You might say:

“I honour and thank all my ancestors—maternal and paternal—for being part of my life and guiding me. I am grateful for their love, wisdom, and presence. Please, I invite you to connect with me now.”

Tune into how you feel—notice any sensations, thoughts, or impressions. If you have a question, ask:

“From a place of love and understanding, please assist me with…” (your question).

Remember, they can’t do the work for you, but they can offer insight and support.

Wait patiently for a few moments. You might see images, hear words, or simply feel a sense of knowing. Keep a journal of what arises—sometimes the meaning becomes clearer over time or in dreams.

When you’re ready to conclude, thank your ancestors, using whichever words feel right for you.

Enjoy the process—there’s no need for fear. Think of it as celebrating your family’s legacy, a sacred gathering of love across generations.

The more you connect, the more familiar their presence becomes, and the more trust you’ll develop in the insights you receive—whether through feelings of love or quiet knowing.

Blessings,

Sara xx

P.S. Remember, it’s not about perfection—just about giving it a go.