Why Can't I Sense My Loved One In Spirit?

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I, like many, have lost many close friends and family members during my lifetime and it is one of life’s most profound experiences.

People I know have passed away from natural causes, old age, chronic illness, car accidents, substance abuse, suicide, and various other reasons. It is through human connection that we start to seek evidence of life after death. The more a person means to us, the stronger our desire to feel their presence and to be shown in some way that they are still with us, as it also helps with the healing process.

We often receive numerous "signs" that reassure us our loved ones are still nearby. I’ve experienced items dropped in my path while out and about or at home, heard certain songs that felt meaningful, seen loved ones in dreams, and many other signs. But what happens when that connection appears to fade, and you just can't feel their presence? It’s not that they’re gone, but rather as if they’re very distant—almost "out of reach", for lack of a better way to describe it.

When that connection seems to fade or never seems to be there, it can be confusing and......sad. If you find yourself unable to sense a loved one in spirit, you're not alone, and there are many reasons why this might be happening.

The Nature of Spirit Communication

Spirit communication is a deeply personal and often unpredictable experience. Some people feel their loved ones strongly, receiving signs, messages, or sensations that bring comfort. Others may struggle to sense any presence at all. It’s important to remember that everyone’s spiritual connection is unique, and there’s no right or wrong way to experience it, it can be feathered but it can't be forced.

Possible Reasons for the Silence:

Timing and Readiness: Sometimes, spirits choose to remain silent or distant until the time is right. They may be waiting for you to reach a certain stage of healing or understanding before reconnecting.

Personal Spiritual Development: Your own spiritual journey influences your ability to sense spirit. If you’re going through a challenging time or haven’t yet developed your intuitive skills, sensing may be more difficult.

Protection and Boundaries: Spirit entities, like living beings, respect boundaries. If your loved one senses that you’re overwhelmed or not open, they may hold back out of respect or concern.

Unresolved Emotions: Feelings of guilt, anger, or disbelief can create energetic blockages that hinder spirit communication. Addressing these emotions can sometimes open the channels.

Different Ways of Sensing: Not everyone perceives spirit in the same way. Some may see visions, others feel sensations, hear words, or sense a presence. If your primary sense isn’t active, the connection may seem absent.

Choosing Not to Communicate: In some cases, spirits prefer to remain silent to allow their loved ones to heal and find peace. They may communicate in subtle ways or choose moments when you’re most receptive.

How to Find Peace in the Silence?

Not sensing a loved one doesn’t mean they aren’t present or that your connection is lost. It’s important to cultivate patience and self-compassion. Focus on your own healing, nurture your spiritual practice, and remain open to signs in all forms—big or small.

Remember, the absence of immediate signs can also be a part of the healing process. Sometimes, the most profound connections happen quietly, within your heart rather than a mental/emotional activity.

Feeling disconnected from a loved one in spirit can hurt, but it’s a common experience with many possible reasons.

Trust that, in time, your connection may deepen or reveal itself in ways you least expect.

Keep your heart open, and honour your journey—spirit often communicates in the language of love and patience too.

Please know it is OK to seek support if you're finding the process of grief hard even after many years, your journey is uniquely yours.

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Blessings,

Sara

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